Strike 2

I was on the phone yesterday with our social worker and she happened to mention a mom that was at Metro hospital who gave birth to a girl Tuesday night. She decided not to keep the baby and the agency had a social worker on her way to Metro to talk to her. It never occurred to me that they would place babies born in Cleveland. I found out they actually go to Metro and Fairview quite a bit. Unfortunately (for us), the mom picked an African American family for her baby. They were the only AA family on the list so I guess with every baby we get closer and closer, but that doesn't really make it any easier. Our social worker tried to stay positive for me. She reminded me that August and September are the busiest months for them--all the New Years babies! Last week I talked to a friend of mine that recently adopted her second baby. She said that when we get our girl, we will be so happy we got passed up by the other moms because our girl will be perfect for us. It was comforting to hear, exciting to know how true that will be, but it doesn't make that "no" phone call any easier.

Rejection

Rejection sucks. When someone who is holding your potential future child in their hands rejects you, it sucks even more. Last week we were presented to a mom who is having a baby girl in August. She is young and already has 3 kids. The dad is gone and she decided to give her girl up for adoption. She doesn't live near the agency so when we got the call 10 days ago asking if we wanted to be presented, we knew it would be a bit of a wait. Mail time for the profiles, the holiday and lots of thinking on her part. We got the call this morning that she has decided on a family that doesn't have any kids. It does hurt, but at the same time its ok. If she rejected us because we already have kids, then its her (and her daughters) loss. We have great kids and our little girl will be lucky to have Ben and Sam as big brothers. I'm just glad it wasn't something silly in our profiles. Something that I'd be kicking myself about and wondering why I put whatever the issue is in there or why I didn't add something she might have been looking for in a family.
She isn't due until the end of August so even if she did pick us, that would have been almost 2 months of excitement, but also worrying that she would change her mind. Maybe God knew that would drive me crazy so he is sparing me all that craziness. Jon told me today that he would prefer an ER baby. A drop your stuff and come get your baby call. After thinking through this situation, I think I might prefer that too. So, we will continue to wait. When its right, it will happen.